Every Bird is Not a Finch

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

I have recently become fascinated with the birds in our backyard. I hung a little feeder, pulled out some bird books I got from my dad, our family birder, and started identifying the regular visitors.

The first bird I confidently recognized was a small brown bird, a finch. I was pretty sure that’s what it was because it had made a nest in the hanging petunia on our back porch, and the book let me know that that was a common behavior. “Okay, cool,” I thought. “Finch!”

In subsequent weeks I saw and ID’d the tufted titmouse, the Carolina chickadee, the eastern towhee, cardinals, a gorgeous red-breasted woodpecker, and even a wild turkey that had flown up in one of our trees. When I saw small brown birds, I thought, “Oh hi, finch. You’re a finch.”

One day, flipping through the bird book, my eye fell on a whole page of small brown birds. They’re song sparrows and house sparrows and indigo buntings and Carolina wrens and pine warblers. For weeks, I had been calling every small brown bird a finch, and not giving it another thought. 

In my ignorance, I missed the variation right in front of my eyes.

I’m so glad I know better now.

The Moment Before