Everybody’s got a language pet peeve (what’s yours?)

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

There are SO MANY lists, articles, and videos that spotlight the writer’s “don’t ever do this” language pet peeves. For added credibility, they sometimes claim to reflect “the grammar mistakes that drive your manager crazy” or “eight words that always undermine your public speaking.”

Here’s my take. There’s no definitive list of language pitfalls that is going to keep you safe from all mistakes, in all circumstances. Language evolves and changes, and one person’s pet peeve is another person’s “eh, who cares?”

Think more about your intention than a list of other people’s pet peeves. If you can connect with the audience through your message, you’ll be successful.

I do recommend that speakers check their grammar and pronunciation when they’re preparing, especially if the talk is very high stakes. More importantly, I urge audiences to suspend their reflexive judgment of other people’s misspeaking. If you hear someone use a phrase you dislike, or a word that “undermines” them, zoom out. 

Everybody: focus on the whole picture, not one word or phrase.