Move on.

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

“This isn’t going to work. Let’s move on.”

 

Last weekend, I was helping out at a friend’s party. There were dozens of candles that needed to be lit, in a short period of time, so four of us were working our way down the line with lighters and long tapers.

 

The candles were small, placed the bottom of jars, and the wicks lay flat on the surface. To light them, you had to tip the candle out, pry the wick off the surface, drop the candle back in, then fire up your lighter.

 

About halfway through the candles, with time running out, I was struggling to get one of the candles lit. I looked down the line, saw how many others were already lit, how many were still waiting, and made a decision.

 

This one’s not going to cooperate; no problem. Put it aside and keep going. Don’t waste time and effort. Grab the next candle.

 

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