New Eyes

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

Lately, I’ve really gotten into the New York Times game Spelling Bee. It’s a word game: there are six letters arranged around one letter in the center (like a daisy). The object is to make as many words as you can from the seven letters, and each of them must contain the center letter.

Usually, I start out pretty strong. After a few minutes, though, I hit a wall. I can’t imagine that there are more words I haven’t found—my brain stops seeing new possibilities.

Last weekend my sister and I were sitting together when I was playing the game. When I ran out of ideas, I passed it over to her. “Can you see what I missed?” In just a few seconds, she identified words I hadn’t been able to see.

The closer we are to something, the more limited our thinking may become. There is real value is getting new eyes, a fresh perspective, on whatever it is you’re looking at.

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