Popping particular pronouns

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

When you’re speaking, especially if you’re working from notes or a script, be careful not to emphasize pronouns. 


Why?


Take the following sentence as an example. “Her influence is one reason I’ve been able to drive success.”


If you pop the pronouns, it looks like this: “Her influence is one reason I’ve been able to drive success.”


There are two reasons to avoid this. One is that when we emphasize a pronoun, it often indicates that we are comparing one thing and another. Are we implying that it was “her” influence rather than someone else’s? Or that “I’ve” been successful rather than “you”? Probably not, in this case.


The second reason is that other words in the sentence are more important, and they can do more work for you. Those words are generally nouns and verbs. In this case, I suggest the following: “Her influence is one reason I’ve been able to drive success.” 


Don’t let those sneaky pronouns take over!