The Doing is the Practice.

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

The doing is the practice.

When we’re coaching, we teach clients the best ways to practice for a presentation or a speech. But the real truth is—every day is a chance to practice. 

Every conversation is a chance to practice intention. How am I hoping to affect the person I’m talking to? Am I being honest with myself about my intention? If I know my default intention is to defend, or to prove I’m right, how can I shift that to a deliberate and productive intention that is more likely to have a good outcome?

Every conversation is a chance to practice alignment.  Am I giving this person my full attention, turning all three sets of “eyes” (face, shoulders, hips), towards them? Am I working to get rid of words and phrases that diminish me and my ideas (“I think,” “just,” “kind of”?) Am I aware of my vocal speed and cadence?

Every conversation is a chance to practice practice. Remind yourself that every time you communicate is a chance to practice, and a chance to develop awareness. This is practice at its best. Low-stakes, incremental practice will surprise you with its results—by the time you get to the big speech or presentation, you will have done most of the hard work.

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