What it’s supposed to be like

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

I was supposed to be asleep at 4 o’clock this morning. Instead, I was wide awake, trying to figure out what to do with myself. I lay there for a while, tossing and turning, and then I had a vision.

 

I saw myself in our warm kitchen, listening to music and drinking tea. That wasn’t what was supposed to be happening, but it seemed pretty good! I got myself out of bed and downstairs, cranked up some (quiet) tunes, and really enjoyed this unexpected time alone in a very busy season.

 

If I had held onto the idea that “I’m supposed to be asleep!,” I don’t think I would have gone back to sleep. Instead, I would have grown more frustrated and anxious to get to sleep, making it more and more impossible.

 

And this is true in so many situations. The more we cling to the idea that “this should have been different!,” the longer we take to adjust to the new reality.

 

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