For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!
My mother is a wise and nurturing parent, and I have always had a terrific relationship with her. One of the best lessons she ever taught me was this: “You’re not special.”
Why would she say this? Isn’t her job to make me feel like I could do anything, like I was a stand-out? These three words fly in the face of most modern parenting.
Her point, I think, was this. The world is more vast than you can imagine, and the billions of people inhabiting it can do incredible things. You are one of these people, and that is enough. You don’t need to be better, you don’t need to be special. You just need to be you.