Don’t Look Rushed

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

Even if you’re late to the meeting, don’t look rushed.

Even if the speaker before you cut into your time by ten minutes, don’t look rushed.

Even if you overcommitted and have two other places to be, don’t look rushed.

Looking rushed is a default intention. It’s an effort we’re making to make sure other people know that we’re busy, or that that other guy talked too long, or that we can’t linger here, so don’t ask questions. 

What could we do instead? Instead of talking fast, checking the time, and having our mind in the future, we need to slow down. That’s right: when you’re rushed, slow down. Take a moment to smile, to make eye contact, to genuinely connect with those around you. 

Get clear about what you’re doing here, in this moment, right now. Create a deliberate intention to use this time wisely—and that includes not speeding through it.

Right now is all we’ve got, so lean into it.

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