Intention and Attention

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

I write a lot about intention in this space. I realized recently that another way to think about intention is attention. 
Where am I placing my attention? Is my attention on myself or on the audience? Am I concerned about my own experience or theirs?


When my default intention is “to get this over with” or “to survive the experience,” my attention is on the physical sensations of anxiety. I think about my sweaty palms, my racing heart, my shallow breathing. My attention is turned inward, focused entirely on myself.


On the other hand, when I have a deliberate and productive intention, perhaps “to welcome” or “to share,” my attention is on the audience. My heart rate might be elevated, but I’m seeking out the expressions on the audience’s faces. I may be feeling a lot of adrenaline, but I’m looking at their body language. I’m paying attention to their experience instead on my own. 


When the stakes are high, ask yourself: where am I putting my attention?