The emotional labor of being present

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

In a workshop I did last week, a woman said, “I am often in back to back 30 minute meetings for seven or eight hours. How can I stay present for all of them? It’s exhausting!”

 
Yes. It is. Seth Godin writes about this concept–emotional labor is what many of us do now. We’re not digging ditches or building buildings; we’re showing up day in and day out and working with other people, solving problems.

 
https://seths.blog/2017/05/emotional-labor/

 
The woman in the workshop wanted me to give her a way to check out of some of these meetings. I get it—it’s really hard to keep showing up, to keep being present, to engage 100%.

 
And yet. When we don’t engage, when we allow ourselves to default into being distracted or wishing this day were over already, we’ve wasted the opportunity to create something, to be available to a new idea, to support someone in their journey.

 
The good news is that the more we practice this presence, the more capability we have. Like anything else, this is a muscle you can build.

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