The Urge to Prove That You Were Right All Along

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

I’m rethinking what this blog might be. I love writing for you, and I’m curious about what you find interesting and useful. Today’s post is an old one, but I am venturing back into writing new posts (as Monday’s of this week was.) If you have ideas about what you’d like to see in this space, please drop me an email!

The impulse to prove our rightness always backfires.

If your intention is “to show I was right,” what will the outcome be? How will the person you’ve “proven” this to feel as a result? Are they likely to say, “Oh, gosh, yes, I am amazed by your rightness and will never make the mistake of doubting you again”?

I think we know the answer.

If you want to say (or type!) something only to prove yourself right and someone else wrong, try choosing silence instead.