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For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach.

In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

Getting Better Is Uncomfortable

Many clients come to me because they want to be great public speakers. Typically, they are people who are already really good, and they’d like to get to the next level: the “wow, they’re terrific” level, the “get paid to give keynotes” level. I love working with people like this because they’re motivated, and they’re already good, so we can really dig into the small things that will make them more effective. Every now and then, though, a client wants to be great, but they seem to want to get there without discomfort. I might say, “You’re more powerful when … Read more

“Should I Do What He’s Doing?”

Some popular advice for budding public speakers is, “Watch how so-and-so does their TED Talk, and copy them!”  This…isn’t great advice. We never want to just try on someone else’s speaking style—it’s like putting on their suit. It might look kind of okay, but it doesn’t fit right, and you might trip over the cuffs. If you’re going to really study how other people speak, go all the way. What do they do? How do they do it? Is their style like yours, or not so much?  What do you think their intention is? How do they make you feel? … Read more

Playing the Homework

In theatre, sometimes we talk about not “playing the homework.” What this refers to is when an actor tries to bring all the work they did in rehearsal into a scene. “Wait,” you may think, “isn’t that what all that work is for?” Yes and no. We spend days of rehearsal talking about the play, the characters, what’s happening in a particular moment or on a specific line. With some plays, we dig deeply into the language to make sure we know what every word is doing. We try lines and scenes many different ways, over and over again, learning … Read more

What Can I Work on Today to Make My Next Presentation Better?

If you wanted to increase your physical fitness, would you run two marathons per year and do nothing else in between? When we want to improve our communication skills but only think about them when we have to give a big speech or presentation, it’s the equivalent of lacing up our brand-new running shoes right before the marathon. We haven’t spent any time getting to know our style, our pace,  or the obstacles we may face. Just like with physical fitness, we’re never finished working on our communication skills. And like with exercise, we can work on various aspects of … Read more

Yes, Your Two-Minute Introduction Does Matter

A few years ago, Ignite CSP was working with a company on their big annual event. Several of us were coaching their speakers, and one of my clients was the person tasked with speaking for a few minutes at the very beginning. I was excited—the kickoff speaker!  Getting the opportunity to craft the first few minutes of the whole experience is an honor, and a a big deal. All actors and directors know that you’re going to spend longer on the first couple of pages of the script than almost anything else in the play—you’re teaching the audience how to … Read more

When Your Ease with Public Speaking is Your Enemy

You’re comfortable in front of a crowd. You know you are engaging, maybe even charismatic. You seldom stumble over your words, and you just don’t get nervous. You might even get a few laughs here and there! This sounds awesome! Why would this be anything but terrific for the people lucky enough to describe themselves this way? Because people like this often get complacent. They’re not worried that they’ll fall flat in front of the audience, so they don’t prepare as much as they should. They rely on their innate confidence to carry them through. The primary problem is this: … Read more

Why We Recommend That You Practice Out Loud

When you write your presentation, you’re using your brain in a specific way, to convey messages in writing. But when you deliver that presentation out loud, you need to use the same information in a different way, to communicate with people verbally. Unless you’re very practiced at writing the way you speak, this shift from your writer-brain to your speaker-brain can be bumpy. This is why we recommend that you always practice out loud. When you replicate, as closely as possible, the circumstances in which you’ll be presenting, you can catch all kinds of problems before they occur. The phrase … Read more

So Scared You Have to Practice

One of the very best things I get to do in my job is watch my colleagues absolutely kill it. Last week, Ignite CSP had a big team of coaches at an engagement, and I got to see them do their thing at the highest level. Ignite CSP senior coach Neela Muñoz was delivering the kick-off of “Presenting with Impact,” an introduction to Ignite’s three-part approach to communication skills. I have seen and delivered this presentation probably a hundred times, but there is always something to learn, especially when I get to watch someone else do it.  This time, Neela … Read more

Practicing Is A Gift for Your Audience

Practicing your presentation is a gift you are giving to your audience.  Even if you feel totally comfortable, spending some time bringing some forethought and planning to what you’re going to say signals to the people listening to you that you cared enough to put your thoughts in order. Don’t skip this.

Practice: A Review!

Our coaching approach boils down to these three concepts: intention, alignment, and practice.  The answer to almost any question you ask me or another Ignite CSP coach about communicating is going to fall into one of these three buckets. Intention. Alignment. Practice. This week’s blog posts are a review of these fundamental building blocks. Today, the spotlight is on practice. If you missed Monday’s post, you can read it here. If you missed Wednesday’s, it’s here. Intention is the thing we want to happen as a result of what we communicate; it’s the outcome we are seeking.  Alignment is how the … Read more