What’s Different When We’re There in Person?

Angie Flynn-McIver

Angie Flynn-McIver

For several years, I sent out a blog to readers a few times a week. These posts gave pointers about how to practice, shared relevant stories, and provided a way for people to connect with my coaching approach. In 2022, I wrote my book, Before You Say Anything, which brought many of these ideas together in one place. The blog posts have continued to resonate with clients and readers, and they're useful as a quick reminder, so I'm including them here!

I attended a funeral last week.

The woman who passed away was a family friend, someone important to me. The funeral was held in the city where I grew up, about two and half hours away.

The funeral was held in person as well as streamed on the church’s Facebook page. I had two choices: I could watch the funeral online, or I could take the day off in order to attend in person.

I chose to go in person. Here’s why.

An event like this isn’t just the words that are said and the songs that are sung. It is the whole experience:  the opportunity to come together to grieve and to celebrate the life of the person who has left us. If I had only been able to watch online, I would still have heard the moving words that were spoken, and I would still have reflected on this woman and her impact on my life.

But by going in person, I was able to connect with other people, not mourn alone at my laptop. I saw old friends, people brought together in this important ritual.

I think it’s wonderful that it’s possible to participate virtually now in ways we couldn’t have imagined just a few years ago. It’s not always possible to change your schedule around to be somewhere in person, and making more events accessible is a good thing.

Now, the choice of how we participate comes with new opportunities to be intentional about how we want to connect, to be in relationship, to support each other.  

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